Broken hearted again

[CatDaddy]

I dont understand women guys....I probably sholdnt write about this on here but I have to get it off my chest.

When my Ex-girlfried and I started dating she was forbidden to see me. When she did see me her parents caught her at my apartment and kicked her out of their house. I was ready to do anything for this girl. I was ready to run to Mexico just so I could be with her. She went and lived with her mom for a while until her parents got to know me for who I really am. Her dad and I really got along great after that. She did not want to move back home so she moved in with her grandma. Everything was going great. We had been dateing about 1 1/2 years when I found out she was cheating on me. A month later we found out she was pregnant. When I found out I was scared but thought We could work through it. So I bought a house, paid off my credit cards and started working alot to save up some money and I put the whole cheating thing behinde me. Now you have to remember I was 20 and my girlfriend was 18. Im now 21. We had the baby back in December and everything was great for about a month. Then she tells me she doesnt want to be with me anymore.... She got an apartment and moved out. I have since found out she is now dating someone she went to school with.... I have now gone to third shift so I can watch the baby in the daytime while her mom works. I had a DNA test done to make sure the baby was mine (it is) and her mom got mad at me for it. I love my little girl to death and would not trade her for all the gold in the world. I also love her mom more than any girl I have ever met (besides my daughter). It hurts me so bad to see her with someone else. Im so confused I dont know which way is up, I just feel so alone and confused. The Ex doesnt want anything to do with me and wont even talk to me about it. I have tried to find another girlfriend but every time they find out Im 21 with a baby they run like a deer being shot at. Sorry if this does not make sense but I had to tell it. I thought it would make me feel better , but it doesnt. I really thought I would spend the rest of my life with this girl, I was so happy in the begining.:( Anyone have any advice?

Sincerely, "A broken hearted hunter"

[sycamoreredneck]

The first mistake you made is trying to figure out females. Thats not a knock against them, they are just a fickeld mistress!!! There is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better, and that sucks. I feel for ya man, I guess just hang in there and just remember God will not put you through anything you cant handle.

[Thunderflight]

I know it sucks now, but ten years from now you'll be glad she's gone. Don't sweat the dating. Sooner or later you'll hook up with someone else.

I couldn't imagine life with out my daughter so if I were you I'd make sure you had every legal avenue covered to make sure you can at least maintain joint custody.

TF

[Airwave(OH)]

I can't tell you anything that'll help you right now but it will get better, and if I were to spill my guts your story wouldn't sound quite as bad. Just remember to be the guiy your little girl will admire and make her think/know your the greatest dad ever. Don't do stupid stuff for her to witness, she'll probably be told enough without you doing anything. So be tough, many others have endured the same or worse and be a good DAD, thats really what your job is now. Hope this sounds as sincere as I meant it to. I know your pain, it goes away believe it or not. There will even become a time when your glad about it. Better now than 10yrs from now with maybe a couple more kids and more. The bottle is also not the answer, it'll just add to your problems.

[Buckmaster]

Be the best father possible. You'll always have a little girl. If the relationship with the mother was the right one. She'll be back. She's young and is not ready to settle down into a committed relationship. She may be back, she may not. Just concentrate on your new role as a father.

[Duffy]

Cat:

Sorry to hear of your predeicament with your ex. Don't worry about her, or any other woman for now. Not to sound too old, but you're very young yet, and you'll find someone worthy of your time down the line. Forget about your ex, but make damn sure you take care of every legal issue to safeguard your rights.

And please remember, you're now a dad, and someone looks up to you, and loves you, more than you'll ever know, because you are the most important person in the whole world. Take care of her, love her, protect her, and be the greatest dad ever for her. You'll never regret it. And for future reference, girls make good hunting buddies, too. My 6-yr. old daughter loves going out with me for walks in the woods, though I haven't toted a gun in the woods with her yet. Someday, though!

Good luck, and take care.

[flathunter]

Stay away from women period is my advise...You dont need a women to be happy.

[Thunderflight]

Originally posted by flathunter
Stay away from women period is my advise...You dont need a women to be happy.

I concur, with the exception of one detail about womening making you happy....:eek: :D :eek: :D

TF

[rjolenic]

Look at your child and realize that there is some good that came of the situation. Things do happen for a reason. Hang in there, you, will be fine.

Ray

[Redhunter1012]

To understand the significance of being at the top of the mountain, you have have to experience the lowest of the valleys. The only thing to know is that it'll eventually get better. Best Wishes!

[countyroad]

That's sad to hear. The best thing to do is to not get caught up in any games that the ex tries to pull. You sound like you're a great dad and willing to do anything for who/what you believe. Being the best father you can be is the #1 thing, and it sure sounds like that shouldn't be a problem for you.
Just remember things are never as bad as they seem.

[Thunderflight]

Sounds to me like the Deer Camp Boys need to take you out for dinner and a few beers at Hooters and then take you to a strip joint.;)

TF

[Lunker]

Theres tons of girls out there that want a man with his own house and ready to settle down! TONS .Hang in there..you dont want a cheating woman ( I know from experience ...the freaking psychos) anyhow and be glad shes left on her own now take your time to relax and enjoy your peace and enjoy your time with your daughter and go out to the restraunts some time ,with the fine waitresses..most of those hotties have kids at home and are single and loooking!!

[CatDaddy]

Thanks for all the input guys....I hate to sound like a cry baby but I just needed to get this off my chest. I am glad I found out before we got married and she took half of everything. She has still stuck me with quite a few bills of hers. She never had to pay anything when she was with me....I paid for it all. I do feel better reading some of these posts, it sounds like some of you have been through some hard crap too.....

[V.P.]

which is what you HAD. Try to find a women this time.

[Thunderflight]

I didn't realize you worn't married yet. Dude be thankful. If you had then she'd take your house too. You'll be ok.

Get with the CD2. He knows were all the hot strip clubs are.;)

TF

[XX78]

Cat,

My heart goes out to you. Be strong and provide for your daughter. You should try to find as many positives in the situation as u can, ie ur kid, the fact that u can support her, and that ur not married. Things will mellow out and the mother will realize the situation at hand.

[MUZZY MAN]

After my divorce I stayed drunk for 6 months ended up livin on the streets. My ex told me God never closes one door without oppening another. At the time that made no sense at all. Now I'm remarried with a wonderfull son. Time heals brother, trust me! In the meantime experiance the love of that little girl and wait for a door to open.

[CatDaddy]

Well, If any of you know of a NICE girl that DOESN'T cheat on people...and doesnt mind a guy that has a beautiful daughter let me know.

[MUZZY MAN]

I'll keep you in mind CatDaddy.:)

[7th]

Cat,
You have had alot of good post here, Just remember don't rush into anything right now. The bottle is not the place to be and may be something that she can use aganst you latter on. Be the Daddy that you are, any one can be a father but it take's a real man to be a Daddy.
I can not tell you how much it hurts to set here most of the time and not get to see my boys and how great it is when I do get to come home and see them running at me! I love what I am doing in the army guard but being away from home is vary hard on all of us.
Enjoy her, she will be grown up fast.
One thing to look at, do you really need to be with someone that is cheating on ya?
Something a friend of mine sent to me some time back: "If God will bring you to it, God will see you through it!"