tcba1987
02-16-2007, 09:49 PM
first off im not trying to start a war of words here, im looking for good honest advice. i had a good friend that i hung out with, fished with and had alot of good times with. we had known each other for about 2 years when i suddenly became violently ill, i collapsed was rushed to the ER and basically woke up about 3 weeks later from a medically induced coma. when i awoke i was told by the doctors that i had my colon burst inside of my body due to a large cyst that pretty much blocked off my colon until it exploded inside of me. i was told that i would have to wear a colostomy bag from the damage that was done but that there was a SLIM chance i could be "NORMAL" again someday !! i ended up spending 34 days in the ICU before i was released to go home and then spent another 3-4 weeks bed ridden at home with a nurse visting me daily to dress my wounds and etc. well the whole time i spent in the hospital "my Friend" NEVER visited me , i did get a card from him through a mutual friend. when i got out of the hospital i had to CALL him to see why he never stooped to see me. i was given the excuse that he didnt like hospitals , which i kinda understand i HATE hospitals !! well i tried to NOT hold a grudge over him not coming to visit me then i was told by a mutual friend that he called my wife several times being alittle more then just a friend and even offering to "comfort her in her time of need". She had told me that he had called several times to check on my condition but that he also was alittle to friendly at times and made her feel uncomfortable. although nothing objectionable ever happened, i was alittle angry over the whole situation. well i tried to forgive and forget and be BUDDIES with him again, he never really seemed to want to get together and fish or hang out !! i kinda think maybe he was uncomfortable with me wearing a colostomy bag, which is really strange for a guy my age (37) but that in my opinion is no excuse to not hang out with me. well anyways we never really patched things up between us and things got to where we dont get along at all anymore. heres the question and problem i have, he has started fishing in the ONE easy spot that i have to fish in. YES we both have fished in this area for years but not the actaul spot that i fish in, now suddenly it is his all time favorite spot. the problem is........he KNOWS i fish there BECAUSE it is easy acces for me with my bag and disability. he KNOWS i fish there every two weeks for Catfish tournaments from us being buddies for all of that time and he deliberately fishes there to tick me off. he has told mutual friends that he does it just to be a A-hole, i know i could just move on and try to find another spot but ive fished this spot for 20 + years and it IS a SAFE EASY spot for me to fish without falling down or getting poked by briars and it CONSISTENTLY produces fish for me on tournament weekends. the bad part is that he gets there 2 hours before the start of our tournaments just to make sure hes there before i am. i KNOW this all seems so petty but the fishing hole isnt the half of my problems, i cant go on hardly any of the fishing forums on the computer without him taking constant pokes at me. he goes around town constantly bad mouthing me, my wife, the club that i fish in and has caused me NOTHING BUT GRIEF for 1 1/2 years now !!! what can i do ?? what would you all do ?? Legally could i get a restraining order so he has to leave me alone online and in person ?? i mean 2 years ago before i got sick i wouldda got tired of his crap and just kicked his butt !! now things are different with me being disabled !! what do you all recommend ??? he has made it all clear to me that he is a "SUCCESSFUL" business man and who are the cops gonna believe if i file a complaint him or me (in his opinion a lowlife bum because im disabled and cant work and because i dont have as much money as he does) hes got me and my wife pretty convinced that it would be useless to file a complaint against him but do i do ?? if it were just the squabble over the fishing hole id just let it go and say to heck with it nut i KNOW he isnt gonna quit harassing us !!! i know of one other person that he has done a similar thing to and that he harasses non stop !! Please notice that ive NOT mentioned anyones names so that im not singling anyone out so IF you know who im talking about PLEASE DON'T mention his name on here !! i think he just a little coo-coo :coco: but i want left alone !!