Bound to Happen

[Tufelhundin]

Welp, I changed my mind...I'm not going this weekend. As of this morning I found out that my wife may have to do her Desert tour beginning September all the way through till the next year. Its not a long deployment, and being prior military, the away time is not a shock nor will be a burden on our relationship. The problem is that I have such a huge fascination/love to deer hunt, and of course my first comment out of my mouth wasn't, Hannah "my daughter" and I are really going to miss you or anything remotely close. I opened my big mouth and said "wow" looks like I'm going to miss another whole season, for I have a 3 year old and no family within 800 miles. "We just returned from a tour in Italy almost 3 years ago" so there was no hunting for those years either.

Well, to say the least, she has finally voiced an opinion of my desire to hunt.:nono:

So, I figured yeah I only plan, budget, well everything that I do is revolved around deer hunting with zero regard for family...I'm an ass...

I figured the best step is to not go this weekend "baby steps", probably wont be back in the hunting club this year, may even sell my 4 wheeler. I think I will find some other hobby and to just go hunting when its convenient instead of a priority.

Looks like I'm going to blow of Turkey hunting this year as well.

Oh, well....it was bound to happen.....sooner or later.

Ciao.

[corey]

That sucks on every level, Wyn. We'll find a way to get you and i both out there next year.

Prayin' for a safe and quick return for Mrs. Tuffy.

Corey

[CARPN-JAKE]

That stinks. Sorry to hear your gonna be without a wife and Mom around for awhile.
I don't have any kids so that doesn't factor into my hunting time....But one idea one of my buddies came up with was he'd watch his kid and his buddies kids so his buddy could get a hunt in...Then the next time his buddy would babysit and he'd get to hunt...I know its not the ideal situation but at least it may get you a little woods time?

[stumphole]

Man don't give it up! You just need to reprioritize (sp?) You can work it out, just back off a bit. It's kinda of a balancing act. You will appreciate the time out even more. Good Luck.

[lung buster]

:yikes: That sucks man, and I was going to keep the Jeep warm for you too.
All jokes aside, I hope everything works out for you two!! Things will get better and hopefully you will get time to do the things that you enjoy :)

[Tufelhundin]

Thanks for the replies everyone...I wasn't looking for pity or sympathy, I just thought I would share an experience that might happen to a fellow hunter. I guess the big thing that bothers me most is that I can plan, set-up, and prepare for this coming season, but I may not be able to go so therefore I can not let myself get excited and psyched up about the upcoming season. The big thing that bothers me the most....and I normally dont talk about it on this forum is that not knowing if I'm going to be able to hunt this season or not is going to keep me from putting up for another year at the lease I'm in. I have made some GREAT friends hunting with these fellows and I still plan on keeping that freindship....I just hate that I'm going to miss this coming season hunting with them on this particular piece of property. Thats the biggest beef of it all. Other than that I still can go to the Bayou State and if she doesn't leave I can hunt public....

[El Cazador Loco]

Son..... Your going about this the wrong way.... Where there is a will there is always a way.

First, start sucking up to your wife. She'll get over it.

Second, start lining up baby sitters. Have a listing of at least five.

Since your gonna have day care anyways, find out what the dead line is for picking up your kids and if you can drop them off for an hour so on the weekend.

Keep the lease!!! I say this for two reasons.

(1) If you can make it out a few times then your golden. Your buddies may have kids or a wife that can hook you up with a baby sitter. Play the poor dependant husband whose wife is deployed routine.;)

(2) I'm not sure how your lease runs, but they may sell your spot to someone else and you'll be out of luck for next year.

Another thing to think about is sleep overs. Drop your kids off at a their friends house and pick them up the next morning.

You'll have to reduce your hunting to mabye four or five times a week (ok mabye one or two times a week;) ), but there is no reason to write off the whole season.

It's all about priorities and where there's a will there's always a way.

BTW I wouldn't mention this plan to your wife. I'd just act like your writing off the season and then just do it while she's gone.....:bouncy: :bouncy: :bouncy: :bouncy: :bouncy:

[geezer]

Thanks for the replies everyone...I wasn't looking for pity or sympathy, I just thought I would share an experience that might happen to a fellow hunter. I guess the big thing that bothers me most is that I can plan, set-up, and prepare for this coming season, but I may not be able to go so therefore I can not let myself get excited and psyched up about the upcoming season. The big thing that bothers me the most....and I normally dont talk about it on this forum is that not knowing if I'm going to be able to hunt this season or not is going to keep me from putting up for another year at the lease I'm in. I have made some GREAT friends hunting with these fellows and I still plan on keeping that freindship....I just hate that I'm going to miss this coming season hunting with them on this particular piece of property. Thats the biggest beef of it all. Other than that I still can go to the Bayou State and if she doesn't leave I can hunt public....

WELL AT LEAST YOU WILL HAVE A YEAR TA PRACTICE WITH YOUR NEW TRADITIONAL RECURVE AND BE GOOD TA GO WIF COON DOWN ON DA WAYNE WHEN MOMMA COMES HOME - YA EVER THINK OF DAT YA OLE SWAMP RATZ :confused: :bouncy: :whistle: :biggrin: :16suspect1:

[Tufelhundin]

WELL AT LEAST YOU WILL HAVE A YEAR TA PRACTICE WITH YOUR NEW TRADITIONAL RECURVE :confused: :bouncy: :whistle: :biggrin: :16suspect1:


THere is a section on this forum for this type of talk..:irked: ..and I'm not allowed there.:nono: By the way...I have a couple of books I need to send you so you can get mentally set for your new bow. :whistle:


Hunting with Coonie would be fun though!:bouncy:

[deerhunter_matt]

Yea, I ahve come to learn that it is a balancing act that I am glad to play. I'm not married yet, but I understand that sometimes my fiance comes first. The harder I try to make her happy, the easier it will be for me to tell her that I am leaving for a whole weekend of hunting.

Play the balancing act, and it will make your time out in the woods all that more worthwhile.

And I pray for your wife's safe return if she does in fact have to go. She is doing a great service.

[countyroad]

Well I would say that you will find a way. As TF said, "where there is a will there is a way." I've had a few curveballs thrown at my deer hunting and I've always made time to go.
TF brought up some great suggestions. If your wife returns and is really unhappy with you then you can go visit my wife and she'll straighten it all out. (She's a marriage and family therapist) :shhh:

[Freedomrules3]

Hope things work out for you. explain that sometimes Men say things they don't really mean.... well most things they say :yikes:

I've been married for 23 years and we have an agreement. Sept through Jan , its all about me. Jan through sept , Its all about her :D . i'm not saying she still doesn't think I'm insane about hunting but it works for us. she actually is going turkey hunting this spring , not sure if thats a good thing or not. she may leave me home with the daughter while she hunts , after all april is her month :yikes:

a dozen roses , some chocolates, maybe a new bow for yourself might help. :biggrin: on second thought maybe no new bow :whistle:

[#hunter1]

Wyn,

Your family will alway come first. I will pray for you wife's safe return. September is a long way off, thing may change. Just take one day at a time, things always seems to work out.